SO proud of you! I know how hard that is, because i’ve had to do it to my father and other people, and you’re right; controlling the emotional anger is NOT something that is easy to do.
But you did it and you are free from some of that pain. Remember that you can’t control anyone but yourself, and whatever her reaction to what you say is not your fault. You’ve laid yourself bare and told her how you feel, and by what I’ve read you are MORE than justified in what you said to her.
Whatever else happens know that you have so many people at your back supporting you to do for YOU. Because you deserve it!
Whoops, meant to respond to this.
I’m glad that I can see where the manipulation comes in when she tries to get me to do something now.
I don’t really care about what she’ll say to me because more than likely she’ll never see how much this hurt me and how she treated me in the past (and still does today). Even my oldest sister is saying that she is different and doesn’t keep a close contact with her.
I keep thinking “Why did I even give her chance after chance?” but that’s how manipulation works. They trick you into giving another chance. But not any more. I gave her an ultimatum and if she doesn’t like it, so be it.
It’s her turn to be rejected.